Comments on: How to Detect a Liar http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-detect-a-liar Wed, 01 Feb 2012 15:33:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mike http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-6976 Mike Mon, 05 Sep 2011 12:23:09 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-6976 Pertaining to the McVeigh reference: I believe he avoided the question to avoid incriminating himself. Police and attorneys were watching everything he said very closely, and even denying committing a crime can get you convicted in an increasingly Socialist nation (cough cough USA cough cough). Look up 'don't talk to the cops' on youtube for some very helpful tips for dealing with police and the court system. Pertaining to the McVeigh reference:
I believe he avoided the question to avoid incriminating himself. Police and attorneys were watching everything he said very closely, and even denying committing a crime can get you convicted in an increasingly Socialist nation (cough cough USA cough cough). Look up ‘don’t talk to the cops’ on youtube for some very helpful tips for dealing with police and the court system.

]]> By: admin http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-6424 admin Thu, 17 Mar 2011 22:16:33 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-6424 People that are very skilled at lying normally are very well scripted. They also think they will seem more honest if they look you in the eye. Because it is hard to look someone in the eyes when you are lying, they have learned the trick to instead look at your forehead while they talk with you. Because they can do that without discomfort they begin maintaining way to much eye contact. They also display their palms way to much and tend to overly use the truthful signs. Extremely good liars (politicians) will dart their eyes around, so that you can't spot their eye accessing clues. I can talk about this stuff forever and I have. Pass along any other questions that you have. Thanks :) People that are very skilled at lying normally are very well scripted. They also think they will seem more honest if they look you in the eye. Because it is hard to look someone in the eyes when you are lying, they have learned the trick to instead look at your forehead while they talk with you. Because they can do that without discomfort they begin maintaining way to much eye contact.

They also display their palms way to much and tend to overly use the truthful signs.

Extremely good liars (politicians) will dart their eyes around, so that you can’t spot their eye accessing clues. I can talk about this stuff forever and I have. Pass along any other questions that you have. Thanks :)

]]> By: Wade Merrell http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-6422 Wade Merrell Thu, 17 Mar 2011 21:34:46 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-6422 I tend to use phrases like "To be honest" when presenting an opinion that differs from that of someone I respect or when providing a negative opinion of something when someone clearly expects a positive one. Now that I think about it, it does sound overly expositional in most contexts. I was wondering how many (if any) of these techniques can be applied to pathological liars or if you know of any ways of dealing with such people. I tend to use phrases like “To be honest” when presenting an opinion that differs from that of someone I respect or when providing a negative opinion of something when someone clearly expects a positive one. Now that I think about it, it does sound overly expositional in most contexts.

I was wondering how many (if any) of these techniques can be applied to pathological liars or if you know of any ways of dealing with such people.

]]> By: admin http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-6409 admin Tue, 15 Mar 2011 23:15:42 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-6409 You are correct that the eye accessing tool is true for 85% of people. The other 15% just perform in the exact opposite direction. Some people think it is a difference between right and left handed people. That would make sense, but it hasn't been proven definitively. Always test a person by asking them to remember the last song they heard, or what color are their bathroom walls. Then you can trust the accessing clues You are correct that the eye accessing tool is true for 85% of people. The other 15% just perform in the exact opposite direction. Some people think it is a difference between right and left handed people. That would make sense, but it hasn’t been proven definitively. Always test a person by asking them to remember the last song they heard, or what color are their bathroom walls. Then you can trust the accessing clues

]]> By: Emily http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-6408 Emily Tue, 15 Mar 2011 23:04:54 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-6408 Just out of curiosity, do these rules change for left-handed people? It is well known in the literature that brain lateralization and placement of certain control centers in the brain (such as the speech centers) are often different for left handed people (a big reason why they aren't allowed to do fMRI studies). In particular, I'm interested in the rules about in what direction people look when remembering something they heard or constructing a lie. Thanks! Just out of curiosity, do these rules change for left-handed people? It is well known in the literature that brain lateralization and placement of certain control centers in the brain (such as the speech centers) are often different for left handed people (a big reason why they aren’t allowed to do fMRI studies). In particular, I’m interested in the rules about in what direction people look when remembering something they heard or constructing a lie.
Thanks!

]]> By: admin http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-6407 admin Tue, 15 Mar 2011 22:47:54 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-6407 Susan Smith was definitely trying to distance herself from the situation. What you have to understand in regards to body / verbal analysis is that it will lead you to the truth. You must also be able to disqualify information as well and continue to push for verbal confessions. As you saw in the Timothy McVeigh example, eventually people just break down and confess. I wrote a ton more on body language and psychology. You may find them interesting as well. As per the comma issue. I used to use a grammar checker and just assumed it knew better than me. That is why commas are used incorrectly. Sorry about that. Susan Smith was definitely trying to distance herself from the situation. What you have to understand in regards to body / verbal analysis is that it will lead you to the truth. You must also be able to disqualify information as well and continue to push for verbal confessions. As you saw in the Timothy McVeigh example, eventually people just break down and confess.

I wrote a ton more on body language and psychology. You may find them interesting as well.

As per the comma issue. I used to use a grammar checker and just assumed it knew better than me. That is why commas are used incorrectly. Sorry about that.

]]> By: Becca http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-6406 Becca Tue, 15 Mar 2011 21:43:31 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-6406 Just a question- I was watching/ reading the section about distancing themselves through pronouns- my vs the. What if they are attempting to emotionally distance themselves? ie they don't want to remember it because it was painful. Do you get the same kind of change, or is it still 'my' car? (Also, although I like the article and find this kind of stuff extremely fascinating, your use of commas is exceedingly distracting.) Just a question- I was watching/ reading the section about distancing themselves through pronouns- my vs the. What if they are attempting to emotionally distance themselves? ie they don’t want to remember it because it was painful. Do you get the same kind of change, or is it still ‘my’ car?
(Also, although I like the article and find this kind of stuff extremely fascinating, your use of commas is exceedingly distracting.)

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-3068 Anonymous Mon, 25 Oct 2010 18:13:17 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-3068 Really helpfull tips! Thanks!! Really helpfull tips! Thanks!!

]]> By: admin http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-2755 admin Sun, 29 Aug 2010 17:06:40 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-2755 I totally agree with you. Sometimes I have to use strong language to draw peoples attention. "How to Detect a Liar", just sounds better than "How to Detect Whether Someone is Anxious." :) Yes establishing a baseline is extremely important and I should have touched on that. I personally use eye tracking a lot during conversation so that I can best present ideas in the persons chosen representational systems. Thank you for taking the time to point out what I missed. I totally agree with you. Sometimes I have to use strong language to draw peoples attention. “How to Detect a Liar”, just sounds better than “How to Detect Whether Someone is Anxious.” :)

Yes establishing a baseline is extremely important and I should have touched on that. I personally use eye tracking a lot during conversation so that I can best present ideas in the persons chosen representational systems. Thank you for taking the time to point out what I missed.

]]> By: M.Smith Roche http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-2754 M.Smith Roche Sun, 29 Aug 2010 15:18:37 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-2754 You had some useful tips on spotting deception. Having interviewed liars for 30 years I would hesitate to be quick to label someone as a liar. They may show evidence of anxiety such as on a first date, a job interview or sales presentation as a customer. Anxiety will come across in most of the body language you describe. You must establish a baseline and determine sudden departures. Eye contact, eye tracking and blink rates are not always a good indicator. You had some useful tips on spotting deception. Having interviewed liars for 30 years I would hesitate to be quick to label someone as a liar. They may show evidence of anxiety such as on a first date, a job interview or sales presentation as a customer. Anxiety will come across in most of the body language you describe. You must establish a baseline and determine sudden departures. Eye contact, eye tracking and blink rates are not always a good indicator.

]]> By: admin http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-2721 admin Tue, 24 Aug 2010 19:11:52 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-2721 These are just very helpful guides. You sort of answered your own comment when you stated you start using the phrase "to be honest", after you have been less honest previously. That is exactly when most people use the "to be honest" phrase. I appreciate you taking the time to comment on my little blog. Thanks These are just very helpful guides. You sort of answered your own comment when you stated you start using the phrase “to be honest”, after you have been less honest previously. That is exactly when most people use the “to be honest” phrase.

I appreciate you taking the time to comment on my little blog.

Thanks

]]> By: Celia http://www.newthinktank.com/2010/01/how-to-detect-a-liar/#comment-2718 Celia Tue, 24 Aug 2010 17:45:57 +0000 http://newthinktank.com/?p=246#comment-2718 Very interesting article. However I disagree with the second last section re "The best way most people don't know about". I use "To be honest" and "actually" sometimes but not to lie. It is used when I'm being more forthright/honest. Mostly to confess to something which I lied about previously (whether deliberately or by omission). Very interesting article. However I disagree with the second last section re “The best way most people don’t know about”. I use “To be honest” and “actually” sometimes but not to lie. It is used when I’m being more forthright/honest. Mostly to confess to something which I lied about previously (whether deliberately or by omission).

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