Here is the final Indirect Hypnosis article pertaining to Meta-Programming. If you perform this test on yourself you will learn a great deal about how your own mind works. Better yet, if you perform this test on others it will immediately eliminate any communication issues you may have. I hope you enjoyed this series and an online test is in the works right now. On to the final Meta-Programming questions.
What we Value, How we See Ourselves and The World
Value Style ( Survival / Security / Affection / Belonging / Self-Esteem / Achievement )
I value personal achievement above all else, followed closely by survival. Obviously everyone will value security and survival otherwise you wouldn’t exist or you would have an insufferable life. Saying that I still value Achievement because I’m of the belief that a life simply lived isn’t worth much. Just a personal opinion, not a judgement. Remember I’m forcing myself to be completely honest on this test.
All the other values are self explanatory. These are the values that drive a person through life. Some people wake up and think, “Today I’m going to do whatever I need to, to find someone to give me affection!” Others change their presentation so that they can feel a stronger sense of Self-Esteem or Belonging.
To find this style ask, “What do you value most in life”, “Name the most significant moment in your life.”
Relating to Orders Style ( Resistant / Compliant )
I use to be compliant to orders, but now I find myself quite Resistant to them. The reason is that at some point I realized that my beliefs were just as important as everyone else on earth and that nobody is superior to anyone else on all subjects. This is how a Resistant Mind works, by the way. There are no incorrect styles, just people that follow a certain style because of past life experiences.
The Compliant person believes that the person in charge probably has good advice or they wouldn’t hold a higher position than themselves. Hence, it is in their best interest to follow what the boss says, because he/she is probably right.
To find the style ask, “How do you think and feel when you are told to do something by your boss?”
Self-Esteem Style ( High / Low )
I have high Self-Esteem. By self-esteem I mean how a person values themselves. Do we see ourselves as being skillful, intelligent, worth while and having abilities that make us feel special and important. Self-Esteem can be dramatically effected by whether we perform an immoral act. Thankfully I’ve been given the opportunity to act as a moral person through out my life.
A person with Low Self-Esteem is not aware of their own competencies. They don’t think there is anything specifically important about themselves. To change this belief one needs to diligently search for those abilities that make them important. If they build a large enough list they will reach appoint in which their esteem improves.
To find the style ask, “Do you see yourself as an important person?” If they blow you off or place conditional statements in their response, they probably have low self esteem. They also will have a hard time looking you in the eye.
Confidence in Skill Style ( Low / High ): I have a high level of confidence in my overall skill set. I have come to grips with the fact that unlike many people I am not very worldly, but instead I’m very good at a few things. Most people are aware of a little about a ton of things, where I’m the opposite, but I’m comfortable with that. Remember no style is superior.
Others will have low confidence in their skills, in much the same way as those who have low visions of themselves (Self-Esteem). These people are unaware of their special skills. They can increase their Confidence, by making a list of skills just as before.
To find the style ask, “If you were to list those skills you do well, would the list be long or short?”
Identifying Style ( Thinker / Feeler / Body / Spirit / Job )
I definitely see myself as a Thinker. When you ask someone to describe themselves, they will Identify this style instantly. I would describe myself as a professional book report writer. When I try to solve a problem I read the top fifteen books on the subject and then write a big report. I actually say that to people.
Others may say they help people, care for kids, or that they are a mother. These are the Feelers.
Body people will describe what they look like and talk about exercise. Spiritual types will talk about the power of religion. And, finally others will state they are secretaries, carpenters, or bankers.
To find the style ask, “Describe yourself to me”, and you’ll find out how the person sees themselves. Very powerful information to have.
Integrity Style ( Congruent / Incongruent )
We all want to good people and have values and a definition of what it means to have integrity. I have a congruent Integrity Style, in that I luckily have never been pushed to act against my word or to harm my personal integrity.
Others have been forced to act in outside of their own personal beliefs. They struggle staying Congruent with these beliefs and will have other issues in life that they are unaware where caused by an Incongruent Integrity Style.
To find the style ask, “Do you have an issue with living up to your own personal values?”
Time Style ( Past / Present / Future )
I live in the present. I made a personal choice to never get to high on the good things, or to low with the bad. I also keep myself so busy I don’t have much time to remember what happened, or what may occur in the future.
Others find great comfort in remembering past experiences. They value history and the lessons learned. They strive to help people make the right decisions and avoid mistakes. They are often of the feeling persuasion.
The Future thinkers are always dreaming about the future and what is coming. Their dreams are extremely important to them and their major motivating factor. They may however have trouble finding that ideal future, if they can’t plan today.
To find the style ask, “What do you think most about, the past, present or future?”
Passage of Time Style ( Around / Through )
I see time as occurring around me. I sort everything in order, procedures, recipes, books, systems and being on time.
Others see the past as behind them and the future in front. They are stuck in the now and may not pay attention or have trouble with organization. They are comfortable with randomness, creativity, and new things.
To find the style ask, “Think of an event that occurred in the past, today and in the future. Now point in the direction of your future.” If they point to the side or up they are of the Around Style. If they point forward, they are of the Through Style.
Memory Storage Style ( Random / Sequence )
I can access all of my memories randomly without a time line. I just bounce around in my head quickly. I compare events that occurred at different times to each other.
Others move through their memories in a highly structured manor. They may have trouble accessing memories, because they have to jump back and relive the whole event in order and then if they jumped to the wrong event repeat the process all over.
To find the style pay attention when you asked them to remember an event in the past, present and future. If they seem to take awhile and don’t give you an instant result they store memories Sequentially.
Dealing with Difficulty Style ( Stable / Unstable )
I have a stable relationship with difficulties. I know that I’ve had life events that seemed unbearable and I made it through and now never think of them today. For that reason, I think that process will continue in the future.
Other people live completely in the moment. They are greatly excited by good things and Unstable when approached by a bad event. At best these styles will feel insecure. At worst they will feel depressed, throw tantrums, or lash out at others.
To find the style ask, “Think about a future distressing situation or problem, what comes to mind?”, If they talk about how they’ll solve the problem your dealing with a Stable, if they talk about feelings and distress they may be unstable.
Guilt Style ( Rule Follower / Rule Bender )
I follow the rules and have a strong sense of right and wrong. Even when I have nobody watching me I find it nearly impossible to goof off or avoid getting my work done. If taken to far this style could produce a workaholic or a hermit that won’t do anything.
A Rule Bender may act without regard to moral standards. They will avoid rules, ethics and obligations. At worst a Rule Bender may become a sociopath that creates criminal acts and loses complete regard for what is right.
To find the style ask, “When you think about breaking the rules in the past, what thoughts and feelings did you have once you realized you broke the rules?”
Cause and Effect Style ( Random / Direct / Many Cause / Responsibility / No Role / Magic / Doubt Cause )
I think people have a tendency to simplify cause and effect. I believe to find a solution, you must deeply study that which is immediately known, but also look for the unknown. I follow the Many Cause Style.
Some people think that life is Random and their is no real reason why anything happens, it just happens. On the other end of the spectrum you have those who believe there is a way to quantify all causes and effects. These are your scientists.
Those with the Responsibility Style will have a difficult time thinking about anything without inserting themselves into the formula. They will use statements such as, “well when I was in school…” On the other hand, others feel as if they play no role in society. They think that there are odd powers at work and may give power to causes that have little to do with the final effect.
If those who think they play No Role become more disassociated, they may start to think forces not of this world control everything. They will grow very superstitious and even develop obsessive compulsions.
Finally, many other people just distrust any proof of the existence of cause and effect. They feel that others are misleading them and should never just trust that something occurred because of some other event.
To find the style ask, “When you think about why you have the job that you do, explain that?”
That’s All Folks
Now you know a lot about one of the most significant discoveries in modern psychology. This is but the tip of the iceburg in relation to the subject of Indirect Hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming. I hope you enjoyed this series and if you have any questions leave them below.
Till next time…