Most article’s that try to tackle the issue of How to Get Motivated, just provide tips on Smart Planning, Setting Goals, etc. Here I’ll teach you how to rewire your brain so that motivation will be a driving force.
Note: I talk about my diet in this presentation. It is completely free and available by clicking on the word Dieting in the menu above.
I’ll introduce you to the following subjects, that you may have never heard of:
I’ve written many article’s on NLP. You should probably check out my Introduction to Neurolinguistic Programming article if you want more information.
NLP is a branch of psychotherapy that teaches you how to effectively communicate and how to change your mental and emotional behaviors.
By visualizing, I mean imagining or pretending. The better you get at taping into your imagination, the better you’ll get at motivation and ridding your life of phobia’s. Here is the process one goes through when visualizing:
Here are some thing’s to think about. No matter how you experience the memory, it is the right way for you. Just note whether your memory is:
The way you experience a past event is personal to you and may change with different memory’s. The preference’s toward remembering past event’s are referred to as Submodalities. Submodalities, to put it another way, are the qualities that make up our visualizations. I wrote an article on them if your interested as well.
Dissociated View Point
When you were visualizing, did you see your self in the memory, or where you experiencing the memory through your own eye’s? A memory in which you see yourself is known as a Dissociated Memory. One in which you see the memory through your eye’s is known as a Associated Memory. Both are fine and I’ll cover them in more detail soon.
By Framing, I’m referring to a Frame of Reference or context. How you frame a situation will define its:
Here is an example: Think about how differently the birth of a child effects you if:
Each will effect you completely differently based off of the context of the birth or your Frame of Reference.
Planning Success : How to Get Motivated
Goal setting, if done in the right way equals success. In NLP, you use the Well-Formed Outcome Model to dramatically increase the chance you will reach your goals. This plan will teach you exactly what you need to do to reach whatever goal you might have in mind.
Do you think that just thinking about succeeding won’t lead to success? Try this test to see exactly how much power your mind has over your body. Just read the bulleted word’s:
Is your mouth watering, or do you feel the bitter taste in your mouth? Why? There is no lemon. Just as your imagination made the lemon real, your imagination will tell your body you have already achieved any goal you want. And, better yet if your mind thinks you have achieved a goal, you will know how to do so step-by-step.
Step’s to Get Motivated
These are the step’s to follow to get motivated:
State Goal in Positive Term’s
The brain cannot process a negative. What do you think about when I say, “Stop thinking about chocolate cake.” Chocolate cake no doubt. If your goal is to stop eating some other food, substitute that item for the cake.
Your goal must be something you want and not something you don’t want. Every time you think about not eating chocolate cake, you visualize yourself eating that cake. Think instead about the goal to Eat Healthy and Feel Better. Imagine yourself eating healthy great tasting food that makes you look and feel great! (I lost 73 pounds doing this by the way)
It is also recommended that as you are imagining your goal, that you see yourself in the memory (Dissociated). Imagine seeing yourself achieving your goal now. If you do this in an associated frame, you mind will think you achieved the goal already. Remember the lemon? If it thinks you achieved it, it won’t motivate you toward the goal.
Now ask yourself:
What you’ll See and Feel
Imagine now the last time you felt like you where on top of the world. Go there now. What do you see, feel, and hear? Remember the submodalities you use when you are remembering this event. Now use those submodalities while you imagine what you will see, feel and hear; when you reach your goal!
Be Unaffected by Others
You cannot change the way others treat you or what they say. You must discover now, how to change yourself so that you are not effected by their behavior. Ask yourself:
To What Extent do you Want this Goal
You must discover to what extent do you want this goal? A great motivational story I heard helped me to stick to my diet. The motivational speaker asked the following:
The motivational speaker said he guaranteed success to those that responded he could cut off their hand. Obviously he wasn’t planning to either way. But, every time I thought about cheating, I looked at my hand and imagined it gone. Great motivator!
So, you must ask yourself:
What you Have to Give up
You may be asking yourself, “I thought he said not to talk negatively?” That’s right!
If your goal is to lose weight, you can’t just give up the pleasure you receive from overeating. You must find another action that replaces overeating, but still provides the same level of pleasure. You must find these alternatives!
For example: I gave up eating food with high levels of fat, sodium and cholesterol. Sounds impossible until I told myself I was aloud to eat as much food as I wanted as long as it didn’t contain high levels of these 3 things. The goal on that day became 100% attainable!
You must find your alternative!!!
What Tools and/or Advice you Need
If you have come this far, I feel very comfortable saying you have the motivation to reach your goal! You must now list the tools and help required to reach your goals. Remember to have a backup plan if someone isn’t there to do there part! Now ask yourself:
Example: I had tried ton’s of fad diet’s and failed. I also saw many other people try fad diet’s and fail. I searching for my tools I respected an article written by Jillian Michaels. It pushed me towards reading the book’s read by Diet Nutritionist’s.
So obvious, but every day millions of people try fad diet’s instead of following these books!
Make Sure your Goal is Attainable
It is! Just ask these question’s to zero in on the how:
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I hope this helps you get motivated towards achieving your goals Mel 🙂 If anyone has any question’s leave them in the comment section below.
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